“Don’t Blame Others” – A Channeled Message


It is you who chooses your upset.

Be at peace. If you cannot be as delighted and happy with life as you would love to be, then at least be in peace. Be calm. Be rested. Be stable. You don’t have to be thrown by life and its inconsistencies.

Remember, we had a talk once about not blaming others for what makes you unhappy? You are not to blame anyone else for your discomfort. When you are upset, it is you who chooses your upset.

It is you who sets yourself off

Surely, someone’s words or facial expression may set you off, yet it is you who sets yourself off. You have the say over yourself. Your emotions are yours. You can’t blame anyone for your emotions. Nor can you blame Life.

Yes, many if not most human beings consider other people and Life responsible for how they feel. Likely, as you see it, B follows A. An outside cause caused you to feel angry or sad or unhappy or unkind. Or, you may see it that I caused or allowed something untoward and disruptive to occur in your Life that could only cause you resentment.

It is you, who has the ultimate responsibility for setting the dial of your feelings.

Even if someone intended to hurt your feelings, it is you, dear one, who has the ultimate responsibility for setting the dial of your feelings. Your feelings are your responsibility, not someone else’s. Remember, your reactions are your reactions. Your feelings are your feelings. You are not a little figure in a Monopoly game that someone outside you moves around.

When you are happy, it is not exactly that another caused your happiness either. It certainly seems so to you. You insist that beautiful diamond ring from your fiancé  gave you great happiness. Certainly, it was intended to. The diamond ring by itself is an inanimate object. You credit even inanimate objects with happiness qualities, just as you may credit the person who offers it to you the same. Of course, some people bring out appreciation from you more than others. Your appreciation doesn’t always stay constant.

Your beliefs come into question, dear ones. If you believed that this diamond ring had a curse put on it, you might well not accept it at all. And if you felt that the man who offered it to you was a blackguard, you might well not accept ten good diamonds from him either.

Somewhere you gained the idea in your life that you are supposed to react in certain ways to certain occasions that befall you. Someone in the world has said that you and everyone are about as happy as you make up your minds to be. This seems plausible to Me.

If you had the idea that you don’t have to be knocked low by certain matters, or raised high by certain matters, you may well be in accord, yet must you always be affected as you always have been?

One point here is that it may serve you well to think about what makes you happy. You have every right to focus on what gives you happiness. Substitute happy thoughts for unhappy thoughts. 

There is an alternate for you, and this is to just know that happiness comes from within you. It’s all here. You have all the ingredients for happiness right now within you. Accept these ingredients. You don’t have to debate your happiness and the reasons why.

Somewhere within, you make a decision for unhappiness.

Subconscious or self-righteous, somewhere within, you draw certain conclusions. You have come to the conclusion that certain conditions demand that you be happy or unhappy, and you abide by these conditions. You also carry the idea that your state of mind at this moment stems from an outside event.

You can carry that idea all through your life on Earth, but why? Nobody makes you carry this idea. Only you do that.
The idea that you choose your happiness and unhappiness seems unfounded to you.

What cleverness is there in the limited idea that you are a victim in one way or another and that must respond so at whatever cost? Just so you can say: “See, you made me unhappy. I am unhappy because of you.”

Rather, let your question be: “What advantage can there really be in not letting go of offense?”
You can think of many situations in which you could only be unhappy. True? I understand, yet I also rest My case, beloveds. You may well believe that unhappiness is dropped on you and not of your making at all.

End of Transmission

 

 

STEPS TO SPIRITUAL IMPROVEMENT

 

TIPS  FOR IMPROVEMENT

 

1. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

• If you are like me, when heartache comes along, you feel compelled to dwell upon the happenings that made you so sad. Tears fall, it seems that your heart hurts so much. I did this for years. I used to burst out crying even when passing by the area where that person lives.

• I finally heard Abraham through Esther Hicks. The message was to think upon what you want, stop thinking about what you don’t want or else you get more of what you don’t want. Well, I had to think on that and reflect upon my life’s happenings to see that it was indeed true. The next thing I had to do was to discipline my thinking.

• When I attended Oral Roberts’ University a long time ago, Brother Roberts told us in chapel to say this: “I rebuke that thought!” then replace it with something the Bible says is true. For instance, if you are sick, you don’t keep thinking about the pain, instead quote a healing scripture and send up gratitude and feel the feelings of what it will be like to be completely well.

2. Dispose of negative beliefs of un-deservingness.

• First of all, become aware of whether or not you actually feel un-deserving.       Just think about how life is going. Do you desire a certain thing and it never         comes your way? Do you feel inferior to other people? Do you think they             are better in many ways? What if you have a deep down, buried belief in               your subconscious mind? Most everyone has a similar struggle that                         prohibits them from moving forward as they desire.

• You are an important creation who is more loved and more important than         you might know. The inner “spirit” or “soul” on the inside that leaves when           you die, that part of you is from the Creator. This makes you more special             than you know at this time, but you can search for more revelation if you               desire.

3. Notice how “yucky” you feel when you judge other people.

  •        You have a bad feeling when you judge other people as wrong, or dumb,                or beneath your dignity.

•     Our emotions are indicators showing us something. So we should listen and      feel from the “heart”. I used to judge fat people about how they must have          no self-control. But I decided to stop that, and instead, think of how bad                they must feel. I try to remember to send up a silent prayer for them to                  overcome their problem of weight. I used to judge scruffy people who didn’t      look so good. So now I just notice them and send a prayer for them to be              able to improve and find out what they need to know to make their lives                better.

4. Focus on getting increasingly positive.

•      If you harbor bitterness, resentment, and other negative feelings, you will            FEEL bad emotionally. Many times harbored resentment causes physical            sickness.

•      Decide to forgive others, and love other people and animals and you will              feel better.

 

 

DREADFUL MISTAKES ABUSE VICTIMS MAKE

leopard-in-tree-contemplatingDivine Reflection:
Read each point.
Close your eyes and ask each one in a question form such as, “Do I believe lies about myself that I may have been told as a child?”

“What are the lies I believe?
If you ask sincerely, you will have a memory come to you of how someone said a certain thing to you.

At this point, from a sincere heart, say, “I forgive that.” This person was ignorant of how to treat me. I forgive that person and pray they will have learned better. No matter what, I dismiss this lie from my heart now and forevermore.”
There most likely will be many different occurrences, and you may have to repeat the same forgiveness over because of the amount of hurt and damage it caused.

1. They believe the lies told about them, example: “You are so dumb, you are so bad…”  “Are there any lies I believe?” ————————————————————————————————————————————-

2. They believe the lies they tell themselves. “I am inferior to other people”  “Do I tell myself lies?”_______________________________________________

3. They feel unworthy of love. “I was abused and used so now I am unlovable, ”  “Do I feel unworthy of love?”____________________________________________

4. They think God must have allowed it. “Do I think God wanted this?”________

5. They don’t know they are learning life lessons, or for what reason. “Am I learning lessons?  ____________________________________

6. They don’t know that help from higher beings is available. “Can I receive help, or do I need to be perfect first?”

7. They don’t know that intuition can be a guide. “Do I have intuition?”

8. They don’t know that they can learn higher and better ways of thinking. “If there are higher and better ways of thinking, can I be shown the way to do this?”

9. They don’t know the “big picture”. “If there is a bigger picture to what I have experienced in life, may I be given help to know it?”

10. They don’t focus their thoughts on what they do want, but rather the emotional pain they don’t want. “Do I focus on the pain of what I don’t want?”

Divine Solution:  Observe what you have written.  See the lies you may be hanging onto.  Say this: ” Thank you for helping know what I need to dismiss from my thinking.  I am grateful to be able to see what I need to do. I will remember how to overcome these lies I heard as a kid. Thank you,”

 

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