The 10 Most Dreadful Mistakes Abuse Victims Make:

1. They believe the lies told about them. “You are so dumb, you are so bad…”

2. They believe the lies they tell themselves.  “I am inferior to other people”

3. They feel unworthy of love. “I was abused and used so now I am unlovable, no one wants me.”

4. They think God must have allowed it.  Some preachers tell untruths about our Creator.

5. They don’t know they are learning life lessons, or for what reason.

6. They don’t know that help from higher beings is available.

7. They don’t know that intuition can be a guide

8. They don’t know that they can learn higher and better ways of thinking.

9. They don’t know the “big picture”.

10. They don’t focus their thoughts on what they do want, but rather the emotional pain they don’t want.


“There Are Things Ye Know Not Of.” Jesus

Thinking about the first steps to end suffering.

Thinking about the first steps to end suffering.

Would you be so bold as to admit there are things you don’t know? What about science? Do you know everything about everything? Could Jesus possibly have known things he couldn’t tell the people about 2,000 years ago? Maybe they were without an education and could not have conceived of too much information. Maybe they couldn’t read and write. What do you think about the above verse?

Could it be that He knew a great deal of science? Could it be that he was receiving “downloads” from God? Could it be true that current science facts are true about our world being in a state of vibration? Could there be more to this “vibrational” thing that we don’t know about?

They say we can “feel the vibes” if we get around a person harboring ill feelings and attitudes. Have you ever seen a dog wag his tail when a sweet and loving person comes around, and the same dog gets all mad and shows his teeth when a different person comes? Do you think the dog could possibly be feeling the vibes of that person?

The modern revelations about these vibrations is this: Our thinking causes our own vibrations to be low with the negative and sad thoughts. Our positive and joyful thoughts cause a higher vibrational frequency. I have heard it said that when we are sad and depressed, crying and grieving, then we “attract” more of that very thing.

Have you ever had the experience in your lifetime of getting “aggravated” and thinking about someone who is making you mad? Then you think more, and more of all the other stuff accumulating on your mind as the offenses grow and grow. Can you see how you “riled” up your own self? Of course, the bad guy did the bad things, but it was you that began to emit the “riled up” feelings. Right?

We still have control

So, this tells us that no matter what is done to us, we still have control of whether we will choose to be angry and agitated, whether we will feel it for just a moment and dismiss it, or dwell on it for an extended amount of time. This is up to us; our reactions are up to us. We can feel crippled from here on out, or we can decide to overcome it somehow.

Divine Solution: We can decide to overcome it.

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Concentrate.
  3. Feel as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God.
  4. Say this:

“I forgive the people who have hurt me.” When someone’s image comes to your mind, say “I forgive that person”. Do this even though you might feel anger and pain.


leopard-in-tree-contemplatingDivine Reflection:
Read each point.
Close your eyes and ask each one in a question form such as, “Do I believe lies about myself that I may have been told as a child?”

“What are the lies I believe?
If you ask sincerely, you will have a memory come to you of how someone said a certain thing to you.

At this point, from a sincere heart, say, “I forgive that.” This person was ignorant of how to treat me. I forgive that person and pray they will have learned better. No matter what, I dismiss this lie from my heart now and forevermore.”
There most likely will be many different occurrences, and you may have to repeat the same forgiveness over because of the amount of hurt and damage it caused.

1. They believe the lies told about them, example: “You are so dumb, you are so bad…”  “Are there any lies I believe?” ————————————————————————————————————————————-

2. They believe the lies they tell themselves. “I am inferior to other people”  “Do I tell myself lies?”_______________________________________________

3. They feel unworthy of love. “I was abused and used so now I am unlovable, ”  “Do I feel unworthy of love?”____________________________________________

4. They think God must have allowed it. “Do I think God wanted this?”________

5. They don’t know they are learning life lessons, or for what reason. “Am I learning lessons?  ____________________________________

6. They don’t know that help from higher beings is available. “Can I receive help, or do I need to be perfect first?”

7. They don’t know that intuition can be a guide. “Do I have intuition?”

8. They don’t know that they can learn higher and better ways of thinking. “If there are higher and better ways of thinking, can I be shown the way to do this?”

9. They don’t know the “big picture”. “If there is a bigger picture to what I have experienced in life, may I be given help to know it?”

10. They don’t focus their thoughts on what they do want, but rather the emotional pain they don’t want. “Do I focus on the pain of what I don’t want?”

Divine Solution:  Observe what you have written.  See the lies you may be hanging onto.  Say this: ” Thank you for helping know what I need to dismiss from my thinking.  I am grateful to be able to see what I need to do. I will remember how to overcome these lies I heard as a kid. Thank you,”








According to the “downloads” many gifted channelers are having, here are some of the lessons we can learn which will change our lives.  These lessons are obtained through various spiritual connections with Ascended Masters and Higher beings.  One cannot deny these points are positive and something a “Higher” more evolved being would say.  Check your heart, ask if this could be true.   These Higher Beings who give these messages are from Abraham, Jesus, Saint Germaine and others.

1. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

2. Dispose of negative beliefs of un-deservingness.  They are telling us that we cannot be unworthy.  We are simply here learning lessons which we choose to learn.

3. Focus on getting increasingly better with love and forgiveness for yourself and others.

4. You feel bad when you judge other people. The emotion you feel as “bad” is an indicator that this judgment you are making is not what the Divine feels about this person.  So let go of judging.

5. Discipline and train your mind to let go of negative thoughts. Your negativity draws to you more negativity just like a magnet.

6. Begin to see all situations, people, and events from a positive perspective such as understanding that all people are valuable because each person is a spark of God whether they know it or not.  Search for a hidden value in all things.  We are being told that we are actual brothers and sisters.  All people, with different color, different beliefs, different economic status are all loved and valued. So, we must develop sensitivity to others and even the animals because we are all valuable.

7. All people are on their own journey to the Light, whether they know it or not.

You Don’t Have to Clean Up Your Act Before Getting Help

How many knuckleheads have heard the message of spiritual enlightenment and turned away because the task of change was too great to get started on? These people think they must stop this and that BEFORE getting spiritual. This is a lie you tell yourself.

Can you imagine a father whose little boy is learning to walk and run? Do you think the father will tell the little guy to just stay away until he quits all that stumbling and falling? Absolutely not!!!! He will help him and give assistance as the baby is learning to balance himself and use his muscles. Have you seen the joy of the children when they finally begin walking and running?

Well, we are exactly like that to our Creator. For centuries we were told we are no good and should come crawling in shame and despair. This was a lie we were told. And we don’t have to believe it anymore! We are loved regardless of what has happened, or what we did. We are learning to live better lives!
So, dismiss thoughts of unworthiness! Don’t let those crazy beliefs come into your mind. It is totally untrue that we are ruined and unlovable! No matter what has happened to us. No matter what another human did to us! We are not “seen” as dirty and worthless. This was the creation of our own minds, not God’s.

It is sort of like this: We are on a journey down here to learn to love better. We are headed toward the Light. Hopefully, we are moving away from the darkness which we could choose. But, such a lowly choice! Why not choose life? Why not choose the Light? We can make choices about our lives. This is why we are here on this planet! Get a grip and discover these things for yourself.

We will find things out if we are searching. Turn of the dumb tv and search other sources. We don’t need entertainment! We don’t even need the negative news! We need healing! Search for healing, as if you are searching for hidden treasure. Ask to find the “hidden treasure” and you will find it! Keep your mind open all day every day. Don’t listen to the old timers who think they know it all. Just listen to your heart. Learn to hear from the spirit. Some people call it the “unseen realm”. You will know it is of God, you can feel it. You can tell. No one can fool you. You will know the positivity and feel the blessing of the truth when you hear it.

Did You Know You Are Upgrading Your Life?
Think back to when you were a baby. You were learning fine motor and gross motor skills every day. You were learning language. You were learning how to relate to other humans in relationships. Remember how you were told what to do and found that you had to follow directions? You discovered you had to depend upon others until you got skilled enough to be on your own. You learned to share your toys without lashing out at others. At least I hope you did. Are you still learning social graces and so forth? We have many social skills to develop. There are certain manners you needed. There were certain ways of behaving you had to learn.

Did you ever realize that if you refused to learn certain skills, the “lessons” kept getting harder and harder until you finally decided to get a grip? What about the skill of patience, for instance? When I was younger, I used to lose my cool and get so irate! Once I finally got out of college and took a teaching position as a speech therapist, I saw that I had to develop patience because getting angry and fussing at kids was NOT going to work! My college courses and practice teaching taught me many things about positive reinforcement and behavior training.

It was proven many years ago that negativity does not work!!! So, I made myself exert powerful self-control. I had to record every correct response in speech therapy. I had to give a certain fun token for every correct response given in therapy. I became expert at using only positive reactions. I read much of the research and teaching about this issue. So, believe me, I knew that I had to develop good skills in controlling behavior and eliciting correct responses!

Well, if behavioral scientists can figure out how valuable positive reinforcement is, do you think possibly that our Creator knew about this before the scientists figured it out? Do you think He probably utilizes this technique? Ugh, of course!

So, understand that the Creator is not mad! You are in the learning stages of life. You are going to goof up, but unconditional Love is right there to help you do better next time. When you get a “life lesson”, next time recognize that every situation can teach you something. Then, realize that if you don’t get this lesson, you will be repeating it over and over until you get it! That’s just the way life works. You might as well take a look at your life and see that it is true.
So, now that you know. How about getting on with the “program” and discover all the other stuff you need to know. Just ask, and the answers will show up.

There’s a YouTube presentation I heard of last year. A woman and her husband feel they can ask certain questions and “receive” answers. Well, I sure would love to be able to receive inspiration like that! Who am I to judge and condemn someone like that and say it is not true? I listened to see what the message said, and I was totally surprised. It seemed so true, so correct, so inspirational! I just couldn’t turn my back on that.

The angel said, “You hold the key to your own magnificence”. According to this presentation, we humans are going through a preparation to rid ourselves of baggage. We are receiving “attunements” to rid ourselves of impediments. So, we must notice what stage of development we are in. As we “upgrade” we let go of old emotions and reactions. We are learning to receive “inner knowing”. Check this out for yourself by going to “Arch Angel Michael”, by Ronna Herman on YouTube.

We all are in the process of developing spiritual sensitivity. The angel said once we have mastered the chatter of the mind and ego, we will be ready to grow exponentially. Well, I want to grow because I know it could mean a better life. I know that if I want a better life, you also want a better life. The question is this: Just how badly do we want this? Badly enough to burst out of our comfort zone?

My Divine Solution:

  • Close your eyes, take a deep breath.
  • Address your thought to your angel, or guide, or the Creator.
  • Say this:
    “I want to let go of old emotions and reactions. Thank you for showing me how. Thank you for letting me know when I am hanging onto the past and reacting poorly. I want to learn to use my imagination to visualize what I want instead of what I don’t want. I want to be able to recognize when I am learning a life lesson. Thank you for helping me do that.”