Dr. Dispenza wrote “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”, said brain researchers discovered that our human nature causes us to wait until things are really bad and uncomfortable until we decide to make changes . Changing seems to be a painful thing that most humans avoid. We wait for a big crisis, horrible trauma, or a terrible loss or tragedy before we do something about making changes in our lives . It sounds to me that we are just lazy!
Why Wait Until You Lose the Wife and Kids?
Have you been familiar with how a guy might be drinking too much and causes monumental problems for the wife and children? He knows he needs to stop allowing alcohol to cause this problem. So, why does he wait until he loses the wife and kids?
Self-Control is Too Painful, I think I’ll Put it Off Until Later
Could it be that he believes controlling the urges to alcohol are too painful in the moment? Well, how painful is it when you get kicked out and the police called, then there’s court, then there’s the tension, then the divorce, then all the struggles. Wouldn’t it be much better to just face it head on?
It would be best to see that we need a change, and then set about making those changes right away!
I’m Just Hurting My Own Dang Self!
Behavioral scientists say that it takes about twenty-one consecutive days to create a new habit. We resist making positive changes by forgetting, or procrastinating, or self-sabotage of some sort . Don’t we know that we are only hurting ourselves and trying to keep the status quo instead of moving forward? Behaviorists say we usually do this if we have a poor self-concept and low self-esteem. John Asaraf, Founder and CEO of “Neurogym”, says that people who procrastinate are usually having trouble with low self-esteem. So, obviously building a better self-esteem is a worthy goal.
Later Never Comes!
Learning how to change our lives involves learning new things and then applying those new things we have learned . We have to decide to do it. It is just a decision. Like Asaraf indicates, many times, we try to do it “later”. Then “later” never comes. But, once you decide, then repetition is always the best teacher. Review what you need to know so that you can focus. Keep your mind on your new achievement and your new changes in behavior. Focus is the answer to this procrastination problem. I used to be full of excitement to achieve certain things, but I would sort of get lost. My goal seemed to fly right out the window. Only later, I realized I “dropped the ball” because of lack of focus.
Where I Direct My Attention, This is Where My Energy Goes.
Have you ever heard of The Observer Effect ? Quantum physics says that where you direct your attention, this is where your energy goes. Physics is the study of energy. This means that when we learn to keep a focus on what is wanted in our lives, the brain does not distinguish the difference between what is focused upon and what is actually happening in reality.
My Desire Becomes Magnetized
So, if we mentally rehearse a desired event, we experience the emotions of the desire. And besides that, we feel the emotions BEFORE we actually experience the desire appearing! This is what causes the manifestation of your desire to become magnetized to you. This is a new way of explaining the old-fashioned methods of “faith” straight out of the Bible.
Hmmm, What Would Happen If I Change?
So, putting our changes off would prove to be detrimental and even tragic. Its like self-sabotage. Why do we procrastinate? Many times, it’s because our new goal seems insurmountable and we don’t believe we have what it takes to get things done successfully. Maybe be believe it is too difficult and it “appears” to be too much trouble. But, what about the trouble your present situation is causing at this very moment?
Start thinking about all the rewards that could come to your if you did change. Could you be happier? Could life get easier? Would you have more of what you want and need? Think on these things and the procrastination has to go!
How do we keep our attention on what we want? Write it down on a 3 x 5 index card and look at it several times a day and think of how you will feel when this desired thing or situation comes to your life. Feel those emotions now. Feel it! This is the key.
How many times have we failed to move forward with our accomplishments because we did not keep the focus of the thing we desire? Many times, the emotional pain we carry causes us to take our minds off what we want. We then begin to focus on what we don’t want! So, we must realize how imperative it is to become aware of what we are doing to ourselves when we take focus off our dreams and goals. Self-awareness is key. We must be aware of what we are thinking!
You Gotta Be Kidding!
“Both experimental and clinical psychology have proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail. ” Maltz, Maxwell (2015-11-03). “Psycho-Cybernetics”: Updated and Expanded (Kindle Locations 259-260).
Imagine that! Our brain can’t tell the difference between an experience and a vividly imagined experience! Hmmm. We could get busy with some great visualizations to help overcome the painful experiences of childhood.
Divine solution: Take a deep breath, close your eyes, concentrate: Take a moment in the morning, before rising, to think and feel good about the plans for the day. Send up gratitude for a successful day. Visualize this, using feelings. Focus on what you do want. Make yourself quit seeing negative scenarios!