DREADFUL MISTAKES ABUSE VICTIMS MAKE

leopard-in-tree-contemplatingDivine Reflection:
Read each point.
Close your eyes and ask each one in a question form such as, “Do I believe lies about myself that I may have been told as a child?”

“What are the lies I believe?
If you ask sincerely, you will have a memory come to you of how someone said a certain thing to you.

At this point, from a sincere heart, say, “I forgive that.” This person was ignorant of how to treat me. I forgive that person and pray they will have learned better. No matter what, I dismiss this lie from my heart now and forevermore.”
There most likely will be many different occurrences, and you may have to repeat the same forgiveness over because of the amount of hurt and damage it caused.

1. They believe the lies told about them, example: “You are so dumb, you are so bad…”  “Are there any lies I believe?” ————————————————————————————————————————————-

2. They believe the lies they tell themselves. “I am inferior to other people”  “Do I tell myself lies?”_______________________________________________

3. They feel unworthy of love. “I was abused and used so now I am unlovable, ”  “Do I feel unworthy of love?”____________________________________________

4. They think God must have allowed it. “Do I think God wanted this?”________

5. They don’t know they are learning life lessons, or for what reason. “Am I learning lessons?  ____________________________________

6. They don’t know that help from higher beings is available. “Can I receive help, or do I need to be perfect first?”

7. They don’t know that intuition can be a guide. “Do I have intuition?”

8. They don’t know that they can learn higher and better ways of thinking. “If there are higher and better ways of thinking, can I be shown the way to do this?”

9. They don’t know the “big picture”. “If there is a bigger picture to what I have experienced in life, may I be given help to know it?”

10. They don’t focus their thoughts on what they do want, but rather the emotional pain they don’t want. “Do I focus on the pain of what I don’t want?”

Divine Solution:  Observe what you have written.  See the lies you may be hanging onto.  Say this: ” Thank you for helping know what I need to dismiss from my thinking.  I am grateful to be able to see what I need to do. I will remember how to overcome these lies I heard as a kid. Thank you,”

 

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YOU HAVE INBORN CREATIVE POWER


Well, I didn’t know that we ourselves have power to create! Create what? Create how? I thought only God could create anything and we are just small, weak beings. I heard countless sermons that if I obeyed all the rules, I could ask for help from the supernatural. However, this belief leaves a person with the idea that to have any help from God, you must become perfect, or near perfect. This would mean not speaking bad words, no smoking, no drinking, no lies, no angry thoughts, no laziness and so forth. If you fall short, you’re out of luck! The automatic guilt you feel will interfere with and short circuit the answer to your prayer request!

When you “believe” you are unworthy, then how can you have to “faith” you need to receive answers to your prayers? Just read the book by Kenneth E. Hagin called, “Authority of the Believer”. His revelations received from the “spirit realm” are fascinating.

Of course, you can ask forgiveness but there’s always the guilt thing, I didn’t feel free to stay hooked up and in tune because of the sin consciousness. In church we were told constantly that we were a bunch of sinners and are guilty. It was just an internal belief I had acquired because of the guilt I felt resulting from abuse. My belief was that I was not worthy of good things! I was told about sin over and over. So, there I was, just reacting to circumstances. My life circumstances were terrible!

No one really knew about the Law of Attraction. I read The Secret, by Rhonda Burne. The book gave a great basic explanation I needed to know. I discovered that I kept mentally focused on what I didn’t want! Then, I would have even more of what I didn’t want!

But now I know to focus on what I do want! I found out about the use of my own focus of attention when I heard about Esther Hicks and how she “received” messages from Abraham. I don’t know if you have heard of Abraham, but if you will dare to hear this, you will be able to see for yourself that exceptional wisdom is coming from this source. You will know that you know when you hear truth.

Don’t Focus on the Absence of What You Want
For instance, how many times have you wished circumstances were different? Do you visualize the life you want with a feeling of its absence? Do you dream of having better things, situations, people in your life with tears? This means you are focusing on the ABSENCE of what you want. Therefore, you are actually “creating” more of what you don’t want!

So, change that feeling of absence of what is wanted, to a feeling of having these things on the way! Check out how that feels! There are no tears now, no feeling of the absence! You now are happy and joyful because you know it is on the way. This is what is called, “faith”.

But first, you must understand the truth about your beliefs concerning whether God is mad at you. He is revealing to people all over the world that He is not mad! He has already forgiven us because we are “little” children down here trying to learn to love better. The messages reported by many people with near death experiences, state that our very own guilt interferes with our receiving prayers answered!

When we find out the truth, then we can stick with it.  Did you ever hear that the truth will set you free? Free from what? Free from thinking and believing wrong beliefs! It is our own incorrect beliefs that interfere with our receiving help from the “unseen realm”.

MY PRAYER: Close your eyes, concentrate. Pretend as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. Say this:
“If I have any beliefs which are interfering with my better life, I ask that I may become aware of this so that I can change them. When something comes to my mind, I will write it here and contemplate it.”
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“We Can Evolve in a State of Joy and Inspiration.” — Dr. Joe Dispenza

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Dispenza wrote “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”, said brain researchers discovered that our human nature causes us to wait until things are really bad and uncomfortable until we decide to make changes . Changing seems to be a painful thing that most humans avoid. We wait for a big crisis, horrible trauma, or a terrible loss or tragedy before we do something about making changes in our lives . It sounds to me that we are just lazy!

Why Wait Until You Lose the Wife and Kids?
Have you been familiar with how a guy might be drinking too much and causes monumental problems for the wife and children? He knows he needs to stop allowing alcohol to cause this problem. So, why does he wait until he loses the wife and kids?

Self-Control is Too Painful, I think I’ll Put it Off Until Later

Could it be that he believes controlling the urges to alcohol are too painful in the moment? Well, how painful is it when you get kicked out and the police called, then there’s court, then there’s the tension, then the divorce, then all the struggles. Wouldn’t it be much better to just face it head on?
It would be best to see that we need a change, and then set about making those changes right away!

I’m Just Hurting My Own Dang Self!

Behavioral scientists say that it takes about twenty-one consecutive days to create a new habit. We resist making positive changes by forgetting, or procrastinating, or self-sabotage of some sort . Don’t we know that we are only hurting ourselves and trying to keep the status quo instead of moving forward?  Behaviorists say we usually do this if we have a poor self-concept and low self-esteem.  John Asaraf, Founder and CEO of “Neurogym”, says that people who procrastinate are usually having trouble with low self-esteem. So, obviously building a better self-esteem is a worthy goal.

Later Never Comes!
Learning how to change our lives involves learning new things and then applying those new things we have learned . We have to decide to do it. It is just a decision. Like Asaraf indicates, many times, we try to do it “later”. Then “later” never comes. But, once you decide, then repetition is always the best teacher. Review what you need to know so that you can focus. Keep your mind on your new achievement and your new changes in behavior. Focus is the answer to this procrastination problem. I used to be full of excitement to achieve certain things, but I would sort of get lost. My goal seemed to fly right out the window. Only later, I realized I “dropped the ball” because of lack of focus.

Where I  Direct  My Attention, This is Where My  Energy Goes.

Have you ever heard of The Observer Effect ? Quantum physics says that where you direct your attention, this is where your energy goes.  Physics is the study of energy. This means that when we learn to keep a focus on what is wanted in our lives, the brain does not distinguish the difference between what is focused upon and what is actually happening in reality.

My Desire Becomes Magnetized
So, if we mentally rehearse a desired event, we experience the emotions of the desire. And besides that, we feel the emotions BEFORE we actually experience the desire appearing! This is what causes the manifestation of your desire to become magnetized to you. This is a new way of explaining the old-fashioned methods of “faith” straight out of the Bible.

Hmmm, What Would Happen If I Change?

So, putting our changes off would prove to be detrimental and even tragic. Its like self-sabotage. Why do we procrastinate? Many times, it’s because our new goal seems insurmountable and we don’t believe we have what it takes to get things done successfully. Maybe be believe it is too difficult and it “appears” to be too much trouble. But, what about the trouble your present situation is causing at this very moment?

Start thinking about all the rewards that could come to your if you did change. Could you be happier? Could life get easier? Would you have more of what you want and need? Think on these things and the procrastination has to go!

How do we keep our attention on what we want? Write it down on a 3 x 5 index card and look at it several times a day and think of how you will feel when this desired thing or situation comes to your life. Feel those emotions now. Feel it!  This is the key.
How many times have we failed to move forward with our accomplishments because we did not keep the focus of the thing we desire? Many times, the emotional pain we carry causes us to take our minds off what we want. We then begin to focus on what we don’t want! So, we must realize how imperative it is to become aware of what we are doing to ourselves when we take focus off our dreams and goals. Self-awareness is key. We must be aware of what we are thinking!

You Gotta Be Kidding!
“Both experimental and clinical psychology have proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail. ” Maltz, Maxwell (2015-11-03). “Psycho-Cybernetics”: Updated and Expanded (Kindle Locations 259-260).

Imagine that! Our brain can’t tell the difference between an experience and a vividly imagined experience! Hmmm. We could get busy with some great visualizations to help overcome the painful experiences of childhood.

Divine solution: Take a deep breath, close your eyes, concentrate: Take a moment in the morning, before rising, to think and feel good about the plans for the day.  Send up gratitude for a successful day. Visualize this, using feelings.  Focus on what you do want. Make yourself quit seeing negative scenarios!