Rise Up Out of the Emotional Pain of Abuse

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Any Type of Abuse is Painful Emotionally

There is no need to review the things that happened in the past.  You already know that you have pain from these things and know that you need to rid your being of this pain because it seems to cause resentment, anger, hatred, malice and so forth.  You must be about the business of washing away all the effects of the childabuse you suffered so that your life as an adult can progress along without blockages to love.

Have you ever noticed that your traumas with being hurt in love situations cause you to become less able to love the next time?  Yep, that’s what happened.  You were traumatized.  Your inner self, or subconscious mind says, “Hey, that ain’t happenin’ to me again!  I’m gonna hold back, I can’t take that pain.  I can’t trust this love thing anymore”.

But let me tell you, there’s a way to unblock the love flow. I will tell you all about it. There is no need to live with a closed heart.  It is much more wonderful to open up and allow love to envelope your being. To live a fully loving life, there are things you must do, such as get rid of false beliefs, forgive, and get rid of resentment. First of all do this:

Be open to receive your own specific “downloads

If you have an open heart, you could ask for help. Ask for answers to questions by assuming your “guardian angel” is there waiting for you to ask for help.  You can receive “aha” moments which are bits of revelation that seem to speak straight to your heart. Sometimes, just the right thing you needed to hear is “sent” to you, such as when you drive along and see a bill board that says something that hits your heart. Perhaps a song speaks to you. Maybe your eyes fall upon a certain scripture that says something profound just in the nick of time. This is how the “Higher Realms” give you a “download”, or a “revelation”. Do not discard it and dismiss it. It is important! It is for you to absorb into your being to give you instruction and comfort to help you along your path.

Have you ever heard about the Pentecostal people in America?

They are very much like the Baptist form of Christianity. Sometimes they are called “Evangelicals” or “Full Gospel” people. But the main difference is their belief in what they call the “gifts of the Spirit”. These gifts are mentioned in the Bible in the book of First Corinthians:12. So, considering it is in the Bible, it is an acceptable thing, right? Most people don’t bother to object to this, they just scratch their heads as if to say, “Well, I don’t know much about it, but I accept it”.

Here is what happens in these churches:

When the people are singing from their heart, they are “raising their vibes” higher and higher until you can actually feel a wonderful love energy descend upon the whole congregation. Tears come to your eyes as you are able to open your heart to Almighty God. When this happens, such an enormous “Love” feeling comes to you. You sort of “feel the vibes”. Most of the time, a spontaneous hush comes upon the whole congregation at once, then someone with that gift of prophetic utterance speaks out so that all can hear. Comforting and loving words are said as if the person is speaking for God. They say they receive a few words or a concept inside their mind, then speak them out, then receive a few more, and speak those out. It’s an unusual phenomenon.

I was raised in the “Church of God” which is a Pentecostal type church. So, I have seen many events just like the above description. This experience is so very healing and helpful. Outsiders are critical of this “gift”, but no one disputes the fact that it is indeed in the Bible, and you can’t deny that heavenly feeling that comes over almost every believer.

By this same gift, people are receiving more information these days. People with this gift say that everyone does this whether they know it or not.  Nowadays some people call it “channeling”. Many people all the world over are receiving instructions on how to get rid of emotional trauma and let go of emotional pain. They are receiving guidance on how to live better, how to love better. how to be happier, and so much more.  It is almost like people can “raise their antenaes” and search for the “vibes” or the ideas which could come.

Divine Solution: 

  1. Close your eyes, 
  2. Say sincerely from your heart: “I desire to receive messages from the heavenly realms that can make my life better.
  3. “Thank you for showing me how to live a better life. 
  4. “Protect me from negative influences and help me to know when I am allowing negativity into my life.

God Isn’t Mad

Have you ever heard of an NDE?

That stands for “Near Death Experience”. These people who have passed to the other side, were brought back by doctors.  They tell of what happened to them. And no, it’s not just brain hallucinations! They all say the same thing, that God is not mad at us! The message to each one of us is that we are loved more than we can imagine, and our Creator is not mad at us!

We think we must become perfect

Humanity often avoids spiritual development because we think we must straighten up first before we can send up prayers and ask for help.  We think we must become perfect before even daring to listen to any messages that could possibly be from the “spirit realm”. This is a false belief.

The old folks in some churches used to say that all the revelation stuff is passed away. Well, where did they get that bright idea? Some man just made it up and started preaching it in churches. Also, other religions say that no other revelations can come unless it was from a certain prophet who came at a certain time in history.

But, if you knew that you had an “angelic message” for you personally, would you pay attention, or would you tell the angel to back off? Of course, you would want to hear the message!!

Get rid of all false beliefs that you have as soon as you realize it. For instance, if an idea comes to you that you think you are unworthy to be loved and respected, acknowledge that thought and say to yourself, “it is untrue that I am unworthy of love and respect. I am loved by the Creator. I am learning to receive more “downloads” every day!”

Replace false beliefs with the truth. A great source that reveals the limiting beliefs you may be holding is A Course in Miracles. If you sign into YouTube, look up Tina Louise Spaulding and see her daily commentary, you will be glad you did! It is amazing to discover that we can rid ourselves of beliefs that hold us back in life. All it takes is a decision to listen for just a few minutes to this inspired collection of instructions. Then, contemplate what you learned. Take notes and review these ideas as if they are “golden messages”.

Divine Solution:

  1. Close your eyes, concentrate.
  2. Feel as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. 
  3. Take a deep breath
  4. Look inside your being, your consciousness, your real self, sincerely say :
    “I am desiring to know if I have any false beliefs that are interfering with my life. Please let me know what I need to change.”
  5. When an idea comes to you, think about it. That idea which came to you is your answer.

We Are Creating Our Own Lives

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Kids Believe and Internalize What Is Told to Them

An unloving parent would say, “You’ll never amount to anything”, so a kid will believe it because they are young and vulnerable! Behavioral scientists say children do this to age 6 or so.  We were just little kids when this happened to us. So many children have been made to feel unworthy of love! Anything an important person says; they consider it true.

A belief is a thought you keep thinking

Abraham-Hicks said, “A belief is a thought you keep thinking”. We think about it through the years and believe it. We watch our lives go down the tubes because of these beliefs. We unconsciously act out the words spoken over us. We self-sabotage because we don’t believe we can be successful. Why don’t we believe in our success? It is because we were told we wouldn’t amount to anything and we believed it deep down inside! The sad part is that we don’t realize this is what we are doing to ourselves.

You can change your beliefs and patterns of behavior.

These beliefs must be changed. Behavioral scientists have studied this sort of thing for decades. Self-sabotage is serious business. You can change your beliefs and patterns of behavior. We must not let the words of unthinking parents ruin our lives. We cannot allow our lives to be less than they could be.

You Receive What You Believe.

This is a truth which must be seriously considered. Think of all the times you wanted to do something but couldn’t. Let’s say you were a kid playing the piano at the recital for parents.  If you were believing you would make a mistake and fearful that you would screw up, the ultimate thing happens. You missed a note! You think everyone can tell you screwed up. You believed you could not play the piece perfectly and that is what happened. You received what you believed.

So now, contemplate these things and ask for Divine help in overcoming the negativity you accumulated during your lifetime. Learn to take a moment or two and think this over. See yourself clearing all this out of your consciousness and feel emotionally how good it would feel if you were rid of false beliefs from childhood.

We create by thoughts, words, and intentions.

If you believe you are going to have a bad life, or a bad performance, or a bad marriage, this is what you will create. You will unconsciously visualize your belief in your mind. You will also unconsciously set up circumstances to sabotage the good life, or a good performance, or a good relationship. I bet you think it was the old stinker you’re having trouble with. Well, you must admit it, you could have done things differently, right? You could have been nicer, more loving, less critical and so forth. Of course, the other person could also have been much better.

We are created in the image of our Creator, so we also create.
According to the teachings of Abraham, “with everything we do, think, or say, we are creating”.  Just think of a nice Thanksgiving dinner all the brothers and sisters get together laughing and talking with parents and grandparents. That sounds like so much fun.  But, what if one person makes a cutting comment? What if you respond poorly and make a cutting comment of your own? You have created this scenario. The other person also created this scenario. If you both had chosen better words, or better responses, then the creation would’ve been different, right?

You can imagine the life you want.
Did you ever read any of the books by Dr. Wayne Dyer? He wrote a book about speaking “I AM words”. For instance, do you ever say things like this?
• I am so ugly! Replace it with “I am good looking when I fix up.”
• I am so stupid! Replace that lie with “I am smart, I spend time on my studies and get better every day.”
• I have no love in my heart. Change this to: “I am able to love. Love grows in my heart every day and I see reasons to love others, animals, and I even notice the beautiful trees and plants with love.”

Think about an attractive person you have seen in the past. Let’s say it’s a woman. Do you think she looks in the mirror, says “Oh no!” and gives up? No, she probably searches for makeup and creams that make her face beautiful. She probably spends time fixing her hair and finds just the right thing to create the inner image of the enhancement of her natural beauty. She has a desire to feel confident in her appearance instead of ashamed of ugliness. So, she focuses on the beauty she wants rather than the “plain Jane” she sees in the mirror.

Feel The Feelings 
Dr. Dyer tells how the imagination is the greatest gift we have been given. In his book called Wishes Fulfilled, He said “You can imagine the life you want. Everything that now exists was once imagined.” Then, imagine the feelings of having already received the imagined thing you want. So, we don’t receive the changes we want by saying things like “I’m so ugly”.

We are to see what it is we are wanting, then, feel the feelings as if it has already been granted. In other words, we celebrate and feel amazing gratitude before we ever see our desire in actuality.

 

Divine Solution: Close your eyes, concentrate. Feel as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. Say something like this:
“I am learning more everyday about imagining what I want, then feeling vividly that I have it already. I do not allow myself to visualize the thing unwanted, but rather only what is desired”.

DREADFUL MISTAKES ABUSE VICTIMS MAKE

leopard-in-tree-contemplatingDivine Reflection:
Read each point.
Close your eyes and ask each one in a question form such as, “Do I believe lies about myself that I may have been told as a child?”

“What are the lies I believe?
If you ask sincerely, you will have a memory come to you of how someone said a certain thing to you.

At this point, from a sincere heart, say, “I forgive that.” This person was ignorant of how to treat me. I forgive that person and pray they will have learned better. No matter what, I dismiss this lie from my heart now and forevermore.”
There most likely will be many different occurrences, and you may have to repeat the same forgiveness over because of the amount of hurt and damage it caused.

1. They believe the lies told about them, example: “You are so dumb, you are so bad…”  “Are there any lies I believe?” ————————————————————————————————————————————-

2. They believe the lies they tell themselves. “I am inferior to other people”  “Do I tell myself lies?”_______________________________________________

3. They feel unworthy of love. “I was abused and used so now I am unlovable, ”  “Do I feel unworthy of love?”____________________________________________

4. They think God must have allowed it. “Do I think God wanted this?”________

5. They don’t know they are learning life lessons, or for what reason. “Am I learning lessons?  ____________________________________

6. They don’t know that help from higher beings is available. “Can I receive help, or do I need to be perfect first?”

7. They don’t know that intuition can be a guide. “Do I have intuition?”

8. They don’t know that they can learn higher and better ways of thinking. “If there are higher and better ways of thinking, can I be shown the way to do this?”

9. They don’t know the “big picture”. “If there is a bigger picture to what I have experienced in life, may I be given help to know it?”

10. They don’t focus their thoughts on what they do want, but rather the emotional pain they don’t want. “Do I focus on the pain of what I don’t want?”

Divine Solution:  Observe what you have written.  See the lies you may be hanging onto.  Say this: ” Thank you for helping know what I need to dismiss from my thinking.  I am grateful to be able to see what I need to do. I will remember how to overcome these lies I heard as a kid. Thank you,”

 

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YOU HAVE INBORN CREATIVE POWER


Well, I didn’t know that we ourselves have power to create! Create what? Create how? I thought only God could create anything and we are just small, weak beings. I heard countless sermons that if I obeyed all the rules, I could ask for help from the supernatural. However, this belief leaves a person with the idea that to have any help from God, you must become perfect, or near perfect. This would mean not speaking bad words, no smoking, no drinking, no lies, no angry thoughts, no laziness and so forth. If you fall short, you’re out of luck! The automatic guilt you feel will interfere with and short circuit the answer to your prayer request!

When you “believe” you are unworthy, then how can you have to “faith” you need to receive answers to your prayers? Just read the book by Kenneth E. Hagin called, “Authority of the Believer”. His revelations received from the “spirit realm” are fascinating.

Of course, you can ask forgiveness but there’s always the guilt thing, I didn’t feel free to stay hooked up and in tune because of the sin consciousness. In church we were told constantly that we were a bunch of sinners and are guilty. It was just an internal belief I had acquired because of the guilt I felt resulting from abuse. My belief was that I was not worthy of good things! I was told about sin over and over. So, there I was, just reacting to circumstances. My life circumstances were terrible!

No one really knew about the Law of Attraction. I read The Secret, by Rhonda Burne. The book gave a great basic explanation I needed to know. I discovered that I kept mentally focused on what I didn’t want! Then, I would have even more of what I didn’t want!

But now I know to focus on what I do want! I found out about the use of my own focus of attention when I heard about Esther Hicks and how she “received” messages from Abraham. I don’t know if you have heard of Abraham, but if you will dare to hear this, you will be able to see for yourself that exceptional wisdom is coming from this source. You will know that you know when you hear truth.

Don’t Focus on the Absence of What You Want
For instance, how many times have you wished circumstances were different? Do you visualize the life you want with a feeling of its absence? Do you dream of having better things, situations, people in your life with tears? This means you are focusing on the ABSENCE of what you want. Therefore, you are actually “creating” more of what you don’t want!

So, change that feeling of absence of what is wanted, to a feeling of having these things on the way! Check out how that feels! There are no tears now, no feeling of the absence! You now are happy and joyful because you know it is on the way. This is what is called, “faith”.

But first, you must understand the truth about your beliefs concerning whether God is mad at you. He is revealing to people all over the world that He is not mad! He has already forgiven us because we are “little” children down here trying to learn to love better. The messages reported by many people with near death experiences, state that our very own guilt interferes with our receiving prayers answered!

When we find out the truth, then we can stick with it.  Did you ever hear that the truth will set you free? Free from what? Free from thinking and believing wrong beliefs! It is our own incorrect beliefs that interfere with our receiving help from the “unseen realm”.

MY PRAYER: Close your eyes, concentrate. Pretend as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. Say this:
“If I have any beliefs which are interfering with my better life, I ask that I may become aware of this so that I can change them. When something comes to my mind, I will write it here and contemplate it.”
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SOME QUESTIONS YOU MIGHT BE ASKING

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HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED ABOUT SOME OF THESE QUESTIONS?

1. Have you ever heard about “near death experiences” people say they have had when they died and were resuscitated?

2. Did you know you are on a journey to the Light?  Near death experiencers tell us what happened to them before being brought back by doctors.  Check out YouTube for “Near Death Experiences”

3. Do you know WHY you are on a journey?  We are moving forward, learning how to handle life situations, learning to love better, be kinder, nicer…

4. Do you know that our religions of the past and present don’t tell us the whole story?  The people who return from their near-death  experience tell us they were informed of so much more.

5. Do you know WHY we are here on this planet? 

6. Do you know you have a soul that leaves the body when you kick the bucket? They say there’s really no death, and you feel so much better!

7. Do you know about the “soul review” you will experience after your death? They tell us there is a review of your life and what you still need to learn. Some people tell us we sort of “go to school” to catch up on a few things.

8. Do you know about Quantum Physics or  Quantum Mechanics? ? Do you know about the Double-Slit experiment? Do a little research into Google, or YouTube. Results to these experiences are amazing.

9. Have you heard about the idea that we are all connected”?  We are told that we are actually are brothers and sisters?

10. Have you ever heard that YOU are the creator of your reality?!  We create with the thoughts we think.

Important Step:  Take a moment to circle the questions you feel remain unanswered for you.

“We Can Evolve in a State of Joy and Inspiration.” — Dr. Joe Dispenza

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Dispenza wrote “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”, said brain researchers discovered that our human nature causes us to wait until things are really bad and uncomfortable until we decide to make changes . Changing seems to be a painful thing that most humans avoid. We wait for a big crisis, horrible trauma, or a terrible loss or tragedy before we do something about making changes in our lives . It sounds to me that we are just lazy!

Why Wait Until You Lose the Wife and Kids?
Have you been familiar with how a guy might be drinking too much and causes monumental problems for the wife and children? He knows he needs to stop allowing alcohol to cause this problem. So, why does he wait until he loses the wife and kids?

Self-Control is Too Painful, I think I’ll Put it Off Until Later

Could it be that he believes controlling the urges to alcohol are too painful in the moment? Well, how painful is it when you get kicked out and the police called, then there’s court, then there’s the tension, then the divorce, then all the struggles. Wouldn’t it be much better to just face it head on?
It would be best to see that we need a change, and then set about making those changes right away!

I’m Just Hurting My Own Dang Self!

Behavioral scientists say that it takes about twenty-one consecutive days to create a new habit. We resist making positive changes by forgetting, or procrastinating, or self-sabotage of some sort . Don’t we know that we are only hurting ourselves and trying to keep the status quo instead of moving forward?  Behaviorists say we usually do this if we have a poor self-concept and low self-esteem.  John Asaraf, Founder and CEO of “Neurogym”, says that people who procrastinate are usually having trouble with low self-esteem. So, obviously building a better self-esteem is a worthy goal.

Later Never Comes!
Learning how to change our lives involves learning new things and then applying those new things we have learned . We have to decide to do it. It is just a decision. Like Asaraf indicates, many times, we try to do it “later”. Then “later” never comes. But, once you decide, then repetition is always the best teacher. Review what you need to know so that you can focus. Keep your mind on your new achievement and your new changes in behavior. Focus is the answer to this procrastination problem. I used to be full of excitement to achieve certain things, but I would sort of get lost. My goal seemed to fly right out the window. Only later, I realized I “dropped the ball” because of lack of focus.

Where I  Direct  My Attention, This is Where My  Energy Goes.

Have you ever heard of The Observer Effect ? Quantum physics says that where you direct your attention, this is where your energy goes.  Physics is the study of energy. This means that when we learn to keep a focus on what is wanted in our lives, the brain does not distinguish the difference between what is focused upon and what is actually happening in reality.

My Desire Becomes Magnetized
So, if we mentally rehearse a desired event, we experience the emotions of the desire. And besides that, we feel the emotions BEFORE we actually experience the desire appearing! This is what causes the manifestation of your desire to become magnetized to you. This is a new way of explaining the old-fashioned methods of “faith” straight out of the Bible.

Hmmm, What Would Happen If I Change?

So, putting our changes off would prove to be detrimental and even tragic. Its like self-sabotage. Why do we procrastinate? Many times, it’s because our new goal seems insurmountable and we don’t believe we have what it takes to get things done successfully. Maybe be believe it is too difficult and it “appears” to be too much trouble. But, what about the trouble your present situation is causing at this very moment?

Start thinking about all the rewards that could come to your if you did change. Could you be happier? Could life get easier? Would you have more of what you want and need? Think on these things and the procrastination has to go!

How do we keep our attention on what we want? Write it down on a 3 x 5 index card and look at it several times a day and think of how you will feel when this desired thing or situation comes to your life. Feel those emotions now. Feel it!  This is the key.
How many times have we failed to move forward with our accomplishments because we did not keep the focus of the thing we desire? Many times, the emotional pain we carry causes us to take our minds off what we want. We then begin to focus on what we don’t want! So, we must realize how imperative it is to become aware of what we are doing to ourselves when we take focus off our dreams and goals. Self-awareness is key. We must be aware of what we are thinking!

You Gotta Be Kidding!
“Both experimental and clinical psychology have proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail. ” Maltz, Maxwell (2015-11-03). “Psycho-Cybernetics”: Updated and Expanded (Kindle Locations 259-260).

Imagine that! Our brain can’t tell the difference between an experience and a vividly imagined experience! Hmmm. We could get busy with some great visualizations to help overcome the painful experiences of childhood.

Divine solution: Take a deep breath, close your eyes, concentrate: Take a moment in the morning, before rising, to think and feel good about the plans for the day.  Send up gratitude for a successful day. Visualize this, using feelings.  Focus on what you do want. Make yourself quit seeing negative scenarios!