FORWARD

The 10 Most Dreadful Mistakes Abuse Victims Make:

1. They believe the lies told about them. “You are so dumb, you are so bad…”

2. They believe the lies they tell themselves.  “I am inferior to other people”

3. They feel unworthy of love. “I was abused and used so now I am unlovable, no one wants me.”

4. They think God must have allowed it.  Some preachers tell untruths about our Creator.

5. They don’t know they are learning life lessons, or for what reason.

6. They don’t know that help from higher beings is available.

7. They don’t know that intuition can be a guide

8. They don’t know that they can learn higher and better ways of thinking.

9. They don’t know the “big picture”.

10. They don’t focus their thoughts on what they do want, but rather the emotional pain they don’t want.

 

INTRODUCTION

 

away on a jouney to the Light

You are on a journey to the Light at the end of your path.  Some people are not as far along as you. Some people are farther along on their path than you. This is why we don’t try to change people. We just accept where they are.  Total acceptance for our fellow mankind is one of the first steps to progression on our own path.

We came to earth to observe the contrast here. If you never identify the bad, worse, and worst, how can you know good, better, and best? This refers to the difference between the good and the bad.

How could teachers in the ancient days tell about the good and the bad? A long time ago, we had no education, no science, no newspapers, no phone, no Internet, no books or radio or television. We didn’t know much back then. Have you heard all the stories about the devil? What about demons? 

A Journey Away from Darkness Toward More “ Light”. When I first heard this, I felt that it made so much sense. That’s exactly what is going on. These near-death experiences of many people reveal new information they received while “on the other side”. See for yourself all the presentations you can find on YouTube and in books. They report that we came here to learn how to love better. There are many lessons we can learn if we decide to.

We are Evolving Toward Love, the Highest Level. Our goal is to learn to love more and more, going higher and higher. This concerns forgiving others of what they have done to hurt us. We choose how to respond to every situation. Each response will bring us closer and closer to the growth we are seeking, or we can choose to stay at a stand-still. In responding to relationship problems or situations, no one can cause us to choose bad behavior of any sort. It is our own choice. The bottom line is that we individually choose our lives. We choose to progress toward the “Light” or choose the “darkness”.

This book helps us begin to see all situations, people, and events from a positive perspective.  

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YOU CAN LEARN TO HAVE A BETTER LIFE

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What Could Our Lives Have Been Like If We Had Known We Were Here to Experience and Learn?

Wow! Just think how life could have been so different if our parents and grandparents had known they were here to learn to love better! The ones who neglected us would have thought twice about what they were doing or not doing. We could have received more love and encouragement. I could have heard good words spoken to me instead of harshness. I could have also known to speak better words to my own children. I could have had initiative to use more patience and kindness. I would have had more courage to do my best in life. But all we have is this no

I’ve learned about “life lessons” and how to heal from hardships and abuse. I also want to say that I learned about a scripture in Jeremiah that says, “Before you were formed in the belly, I knew you.” Huh? Woe, what does THAT mean? It turns out that we knew what lessons we needed to know for our spiritual development. We actually chose the circumstances we would be born into because of the lessons which we ourselves chose to learn!!

Contrary to what some religious old timers say, God is not choosing all those zaps we keep getting. We are choosing! Let’s say you are experiencing hardships with your relationship with someone else. Would you be at fault in any way? Were you disloyal? Did you lie or mislead someone for your own selfish motives? Well, perhaps your inner being desires you to learn to be loyal and truthful.

I will show you how you can bring yourself up higher and higher from the depths of despair to joy and bliss one step at a time. It’s like a scope and sequence scale such as the math skills we teach children. First you count objects, next you add objects, then subtract and multiply and divide for example.

Divine Resolution:

1. Close your eyes

2. Concentrate

3. Pretend as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. Say this:

“To my Creator, or Angels, my guides, or ascended masters, I ask for help in finding out the truth of how things really are so that I can learn to have a better life and learn how to love others better than I currently do. Thank you for helping me and enlightening my mind to the truth.

“There Are Things Ye Know Not Of.” Jesus

Thinking about the first steps to end suffering.

Thinking about the first steps to end suffering.

Would you be so bold as to admit there are things you don’t know? What about science? Do you know everything about everything? Could Jesus possibly have known things he couldn’t tell the people about 2,000 years ago? Maybe they were without an education and could not have conceived of too much information. Maybe they couldn’t read and write. What do you think about the above verse?

Could it be that He knew a great deal of science? Could it be that he was receiving “downloads” from God? Could it be true that current science facts are true about our world being in a state of vibration? Could there be more to this “vibrational” thing that we don’t know about?

They say we can “feel the vibes” if we get around a person harboring ill feelings and attitudes. Have you ever seen a dog wag his tail when a sweet and loving person comes around, and the same dog gets all mad and shows his teeth when a different person comes? Do you think the dog could possibly be feeling the vibes of that person?

The modern revelations about these vibrations is this: Our thinking causes our own vibrations to be low with the negative and sad thoughts. Our positive and joyful thoughts cause a higher vibrational frequency. I have heard it said that when we are sad and depressed, crying and grieving, then we “attract” more of that very thing.

Have you ever had the experience in your lifetime of getting “aggravated” and thinking about someone who is making you mad? Then you think more, and more of all the other stuff accumulating on your mind as the offenses grow and grow. Can you see how you “riled” up your own self? Of course, the bad guy did the bad things, but it was you that began to emit the “riled up” feelings. Right?

We still have control

So, this tells us that no matter what is done to us, we still have control of whether we will choose to be angry and agitated, whether we will feel it for just a moment and dismiss it, or dwell on it for an extended amount of time. This is up to us; our reactions are up to us. We can feel crippled from here on out, or we can decide to overcome it somehow.

Divine Solution: We can decide to overcome it.

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Concentrate.
  3. Feel as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God.
  4. Say this:

“I forgive the people who have hurt me.” When someone’s image comes to your mind, say “I forgive that person”. Do this even though you might feel anger and pain.

Rise Up Out of the Emotional Pain of Abuse

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Any Type of Abuse is Painful Emotionally

There is no need to review the things that happened in the past.  You already know that you have pain from these things and know that you need to rid your being of this pain because it seems to cause resentment, anger, hatred, malice and so forth.  You must be about the business of washing away all the effects of the childabuse you suffered so that your life as an adult can progress along without blockages to love.

Have you ever noticed that your traumas with being hurt in love situations cause you to become less able to love the next time?  Yep, that’s what happened.  You were traumatized.  Your inner self, or subconscious mind says, “Hey, that ain’t happenin’ to me again!  I’m gonna hold back, I can’t take that pain.  I can’t trust this love thing anymore”.

But let me tell you, there’s a way to unblock the love flow. I will tell you all about it. There is no need to live with a closed heart.  It is much more wonderful to open up and allow love to envelope your being. To live a fully loving life, there are things you must do, such as get rid of false beliefs, forgive, and get rid of resentment. First of all do this:

Be open to receive your own specific “downloads

If you have an open heart, you could ask for help. Ask for answers to questions by assuming your “guardian angel” is there waiting for you to ask for help.  You can receive “aha” moments which are bits of revelation that seem to speak straight to your heart. Sometimes, just the right thing you needed to hear is “sent” to you, such as when you drive along and see a bill board that says something that hits your heart. Perhaps a song speaks to you. Maybe your eyes fall upon a certain scripture that says something profound just in the nick of time. This is how the “Higher Realms” give you a “download”, or a “revelation”. Do not discard it and dismiss it. It is important! It is for you to absorb into your being to give you instruction and comfort to help you along your path.

Have you ever heard about the Pentecostal people in America?

They are very much like the Baptist form of Christianity. Sometimes they are called “Evangelicals” or “Full Gospel” people. But the main difference is their belief in what they call the “gifts of the Spirit”. These gifts are mentioned in the Bible in the book of First Corinthians:12. So, considering it is in the Bible, it is an acceptable thing, right? Most people don’t bother to object to this, they just scratch their heads as if to say, “Well, I don’t know much about it, but I accept it”.

Here is what happens in these churches:

When the people are singing from their heart, they are “raising their vibes” higher and higher until you can actually feel a wonderful love energy descend upon the whole congregation. Tears come to your eyes as you are able to open your heart to Almighty God. When this happens, such an enormous “Love” feeling comes to you. You sort of “feel the vibes”. Most of the time, a spontaneous hush comes upon the whole congregation at once, then someone with that gift of prophetic utterance speaks out so that all can hear. Comforting and loving words are said as if the person is speaking for God. They say they receive a few words or a concept inside their mind, then speak them out, then receive a few more, and speak those out. It’s an unusual phenomenon.

I was raised in the “Church of God” which is a Pentecostal type church. So, I have seen many events just like the above description. This experience is so very healing and helpful. Outsiders are critical of this “gift”, but no one disputes the fact that it is indeed in the Bible, and you can’t deny that heavenly feeling that comes over almost every believer.

By this same gift, people are receiving more information these days. People with this gift say that everyone does this whether they know it or not.  Nowadays some people call it “channeling”. Many people all the world over are receiving instructions on how to get rid of emotional trauma and let go of emotional pain. They are receiving guidance on how to live better, how to love better. how to be happier, and so much more.  It is almost like people can “raise their antenaes” and search for the “vibes” or the ideas which could come.

Divine Solution: 

  1. Close your eyes, 
  2. Say sincerely from your heart: “I desire to receive messages from the heavenly realms that can make my life better.
  3. “Thank you for showing me how to live a better life. 
  4. “Protect me from negative influences and help me to know when I am allowing negativity into my life.

“Don’t Blame Others” – A Channeled Message


It is you who chooses your upset.

Be at peace. If you cannot be as delighted and happy with life as you would love to be, then at least be in peace. Be calm. Be rested. Be stable. You don’t have to be thrown by life and its inconsistencies.

Remember, we had a talk once about not blaming others for what makes you unhappy? You are not to blame anyone else for your discomfort. When you are upset, it is you who chooses your upset.

It is you who sets yourself off

Surely, someone’s words or facial expression may set you off, yet it is you who sets yourself off. You have the say over yourself. Your emotions are yours. You can’t blame anyone for your emotions. Nor can you blame Life.

Yes, many if not most human beings consider other people and Life responsible for how they feel. Likely, as you see it, B follows A. An outside cause caused you to feel angry or sad or unhappy or unkind. Or, you may see it that I caused or allowed something untoward and disruptive to occur in your Life that could only cause you resentment.

It is you, who has the ultimate responsibility for setting the dial of your feelings.

Even if someone intended to hurt your feelings, it is you, dear one, who has the ultimate responsibility for setting the dial of your feelings. Your feelings are your responsibility, not someone else’s. Remember, your reactions are your reactions. Your feelings are your feelings. You are not a little figure in a Monopoly game that someone outside you moves around.

When you are happy, it is not exactly that another caused your happiness either. It certainly seems so to you. You insist that beautiful diamond ring from your fiancé  gave you great happiness. Certainly, it was intended to. The diamond ring by itself is an inanimate object. You credit even inanimate objects with happiness qualities, just as you may credit the person who offers it to you the same. Of course, some people bring out appreciation from you more than others. Your appreciation doesn’t always stay constant.

Your beliefs come into question, dear ones. If you believed that this diamond ring had a curse put on it, you might well not accept it at all. And if you felt that the man who offered it to you was a blackguard, you might well not accept ten good diamonds from him either.

Somewhere you gained the idea in your life that you are supposed to react in certain ways to certain occasions that befall you. Someone in the world has said that you and everyone are about as happy as you make up your minds to be. This seems plausible to Me.

If you had the idea that you don’t have to be knocked low by certain matters, or raised high by certain matters, you may well be in accord, yet must you always be affected as you always have been?

One point here is that it may serve you well to think about what makes you happy. You have every right to focus on what gives you happiness. Substitute happy thoughts for unhappy thoughts. 

There is an alternate for you, and this is to just know that happiness comes from within you. It’s all here. You have all the ingredients for happiness right now within you. Accept these ingredients. You don’t have to debate your happiness and the reasons why.

Somewhere within, you make a decision for unhappiness.

Subconscious or self-righteous, somewhere within, you draw certain conclusions. You have come to the conclusion that certain conditions demand that you be happy or unhappy, and you abide by these conditions. You also carry the idea that your state of mind at this moment stems from an outside event.

You can carry that idea all through your life on Earth, but why? Nobody makes you carry this idea. Only you do that.
The idea that you choose your happiness and unhappiness seems unfounded to you.

What cleverness is there in the limited idea that you are a victim in one way or another and that must respond so at whatever cost? Just so you can say: “See, you made me unhappy. I am unhappy because of you.”

Rather, let your question be: “What advantage can there really be in not letting go of offense?”
You can think of many situations in which you could only be unhappy. True? I understand, yet I also rest My case, beloveds. You may well believe that unhappiness is dropped on you and not of your making at all.

End of Transmission

 

 

God Isn’t Mad

Have you ever heard of an NDE?

That stands for “Near Death Experience”. These people who have passed to the other side, were brought back by doctors.  They tell of what happened to them. And no, it’s not just brain hallucinations! They all say the same thing, that God is not mad at us! The message to each one of us is that we are loved more than we can imagine, and our Creator is not mad at us!

We think we must become perfect

Humanity often avoids spiritual development because we think we must straighten up first before we can send up prayers and ask for help.  We think we must become perfect before even daring to listen to any messages that could possibly be from the “spirit realm”. This is a false belief.

The old folks in some churches used to say that all the revelation stuff is passed away. Well, where did they get that bright idea? Some man just made it up and started preaching it in churches. Also, other religions say that no other revelations can come unless it was from a certain prophet who came at a certain time in history.

But, if you knew that you had an “angelic message” for you personally, would you pay attention, or would you tell the angel to back off? Of course, you would want to hear the message!!

Get rid of all false beliefs that you have as soon as you realize it. For instance, if an idea comes to you that you think you are unworthy to be loved and respected, acknowledge that thought and say to yourself, “it is untrue that I am unworthy of love and respect. I am loved by the Creator. I am learning to receive more “downloads” every day!”

Replace false beliefs with the truth. A great source that reveals the limiting beliefs you may be holding is A Course in Miracles. If you sign into YouTube, look up Tina Louise Spaulding and see her daily commentary, you will be glad you did! It is amazing to discover that we can rid ourselves of beliefs that hold us back in life. All it takes is a decision to listen for just a few minutes to this inspired collection of instructions. Then, contemplate what you learned. Take notes and review these ideas as if they are “golden messages”.

Divine Solution:

  1. Close your eyes, concentrate.
  2. Feel as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. 
  3. Take a deep breath
  4. Look inside your being, your consciousness, your real self, sincerely say :
    “I am desiring to know if I have any false beliefs that are interfering with my life. Please let me know what I need to change.”
  5. When an idea comes to you, think about it. That idea which came to you is your answer.

We Are Creating Our Own Lives

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Kids Believe and Internalize What Is Told to Them

An unloving parent would say, “You’ll never amount to anything”, so a kid will believe it because they are young and vulnerable! Behavioral scientists say children do this to age 6 or so.  We were just little kids when this happened to us. So many children have been made to feel unworthy of love! Anything an important person says; they consider it true.

A belief is a thought you keep thinking

Abraham-Hicks said, “A belief is a thought you keep thinking”. We think about it through the years and believe it. We watch our lives go down the tubes because of these beliefs. We unconsciously act out the words spoken over us. We self-sabotage because we don’t believe we can be successful. Why don’t we believe in our success? It is because we were told we wouldn’t amount to anything and we believed it deep down inside! The sad part is that we don’t realize this is what we are doing to ourselves.

You can change your beliefs and patterns of behavior.

These beliefs must be changed. Behavioral scientists have studied this sort of thing for decades. Self-sabotage is serious business. You can change your beliefs and patterns of behavior. We must not let the words of unthinking parents ruin our lives. We cannot allow our lives to be less than they could be.

You Receive What You Believe.

This is a truth which must be seriously considered. Think of all the times you wanted to do something but couldn’t. Let’s say you were a kid playing the piano at the recital for parents.  If you were believing you would make a mistake and fearful that you would screw up, the ultimate thing happens. You missed a note! You think everyone can tell you screwed up. You believed you could not play the piece perfectly and that is what happened. You received what you believed.

So now, contemplate these things and ask for Divine help in overcoming the negativity you accumulated during your lifetime. Learn to take a moment or two and think this over. See yourself clearing all this out of your consciousness and feel emotionally how good it would feel if you were rid of false beliefs from childhood.

We create by thoughts, words, and intentions.

If you believe you are going to have a bad life, or a bad performance, or a bad marriage, this is what you will create. You will unconsciously visualize your belief in your mind. You will also unconsciously set up circumstances to sabotage the good life, or a good performance, or a good relationship. I bet you think it was the old stinker you’re having trouble with. Well, you must admit it, you could have done things differently, right? You could have been nicer, more loving, less critical and so forth. Of course, the other person could also have been much better.

We are created in the image of our Creator, so we also create.
According to the teachings of Abraham, “with everything we do, think, or say, we are creating”.  Just think of a nice Thanksgiving dinner all the brothers and sisters get together laughing and talking with parents and grandparents. That sounds like so much fun.  But, what if one person makes a cutting comment? What if you respond poorly and make a cutting comment of your own? You have created this scenario. The other person also created this scenario. If you both had chosen better words, or better responses, then the creation would’ve been different, right?

You can imagine the life you want.
Did you ever read any of the books by Dr. Wayne Dyer? He wrote a book about speaking “I AM words”. For instance, do you ever say things like this?
• I am so ugly! Replace it with “I am good looking when I fix up.”
• I am so stupid! Replace that lie with “I am smart, I spend time on my studies and get better every day.”
• I have no love in my heart. Change this to: “I am able to love. Love grows in my heart every day and I see reasons to love others, animals, and I even notice the beautiful trees and plants with love.”

Think about an attractive person you have seen in the past. Let’s say it’s a woman. Do you think she looks in the mirror, says “Oh no!” and gives up? No, she probably searches for makeup and creams that make her face beautiful. She probably spends time fixing her hair and finds just the right thing to create the inner image of the enhancement of her natural beauty. She has a desire to feel confident in her appearance instead of ashamed of ugliness. So, she focuses on the beauty she wants rather than the “plain Jane” she sees in the mirror.

Feel The Feelings 
Dr. Dyer tells how the imagination is the greatest gift we have been given. In his book called Wishes Fulfilled, He said “You can imagine the life you want. Everything that now exists was once imagined.” Then, imagine the feelings of having already received the imagined thing you want. So, we don’t receive the changes we want by saying things like “I’m so ugly”.

We are to see what it is we are wanting, then, feel the feelings as if it has already been granted. In other words, we celebrate and feel amazing gratitude before we ever see our desire in actuality.

 

Divine Solution: Close your eyes, concentrate. Feel as if you are speaking to your guardian angel, or guide, or God. Say something like this:
“I am learning more everyday about imagining what I want, then feeling vividly that I have it already. I do not allow myself to visualize the thing unwanted, but rather only what is desired”.

STEPS TO SPIRITUAL IMPROVEMENT

 

TIPS  FOR IMPROVEMENT

 

1. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

• If you are like me, when heartache comes along, you feel compelled to dwell upon the happenings that made you so sad. Tears fall, it seems that your heart hurts so much. I did this for years. I used to burst out crying even when passing by the area where that person lives.

• I finally heard Abraham through Esther Hicks. The message was to think upon what you want, stop thinking about what you don’t want or else you get more of what you don’t want. Well, I had to think on that and reflect upon my life’s happenings to see that it was indeed true. The next thing I had to do was to discipline my thinking.

• When I attended Oral Roberts’ University a long time ago, Brother Roberts told us in chapel to say this: “I rebuke that thought!” then replace it with something the Bible says is true. For instance, if you are sick, you don’t keep thinking about the pain, instead quote a healing scripture and send up gratitude and feel the feelings of what it will be like to be completely well.

2. Dispose of negative beliefs of un-deservingness.

• First of all, become aware of whether or not you actually feel un-deserving.       Just think about how life is going. Do you desire a certain thing and it never         comes your way? Do you feel inferior to other people? Do you think they             are better in many ways? What if you have a deep down, buried belief in               your subconscious mind? Most everyone has a similar struggle that                         prohibits them from moving forward as they desire.

• You are an important creation who is more loved and more important than         you might know. The inner “spirit” or “soul” on the inside that leaves when           you die, that part of you is from the Creator. This makes you more special             than you know at this time, but you can search for more revelation if you               desire.

3. Notice how “yucky” you feel when you judge other people.

  •        You have a bad feeling when you judge other people as wrong, or dumb,                or beneath your dignity.

•     Our emotions are indicators showing us something. So we should listen and      feel from the “heart”. I used to judge fat people about how they must have          no self-control. But I decided to stop that, and instead, think of how bad                they must feel. I try to remember to send up a silent prayer for them to                  overcome their problem of weight. I used to judge scruffy people who didn’t      look so good. So now I just notice them and send a prayer for them to be              able to improve and find out what they need to know to make their lives                better.

4. Focus on getting increasingly positive.

•      If you harbor bitterness, resentment, and other negative feelings, you will            FEEL bad emotionally. Many times harbored resentment causes physical            sickness.

•      Decide to forgive others, and love other people and animals and you will              feel better.